Casual sex

I read and article this morning. I don't want to link to it and promote it because I don't think is worthy. It was  a proponent for abstinence. I have no problem with people waiting until marriage to have sex. I have a problem suggesting that is the only course of action. There are plenty of people that don't marry but choose to live in committed defacto relationships. There are people that struggle to find someone they want to marry.

I believe that sex is special. I have never had sex with someone I don't love. I could never have a one night stand. I don't judge those that do. It's just not for me. I have body image issues and, on top of that, once I give someone my vagina they also have my heart. I hold both in very high regard and choose very carefully those that have access to either.

But I am in the minority. Most people are happy to shag someone they have just met. Good for them. Sex is a healthy thing and not something to be ashamed of. I have issues with promiscuity that is unsafe - unprotected sex with a stranger in an alley when drunk as a skunk is probably not the smartest move.

I know that my choices around sex is possibly one of the reasons men find me in attractive but I am done changing for others. I love sex. I miss it. But I am not about to hop in bed with someone to get my needs met because that is not the right thing for me. Moreover I don't share and there are plenty of men out there playing the field. Not my thing. Considering I have children I am okay with living apart together but, like a friend of mine says, loyalty is key.

I am happy for people to make their own choices as long as those choices that make them happy. Just don't impose your opinions on me.