See yourself big

I'm reading Playing Big by Tara Mohr.  The book details the notion that you can't be what you can't see; insinuating that you cannot grow into your authentic self without being able to visualise what that person looks like.

By design, the book is very women focused. All the language is directed at a female audience but the principle applies across genders (naturally! We are, at our core, all humans. Regardless of gender, race, sexual preference, political views or toilet tissue preference; we are fundamentally built with the same blocks).

The basis of seeing yourself big is to become your own mentor. The idea of having a mentor is ageless. In its loosest sense, a mentor is a guide. In Greek mythology, Mentor was a wise and faithful adviser. Tribal cultures are constructed such that older members of the community pass their wisdom onto the next generation as they come of age. As a result, lessons learnt are passed down.

The idea of being your own mentor is a slightly different take on the traditional situation. Google brings the world to our fingertips. Even when out and about, we are able to locate any piece of information we need. We no longer need to employ traditional research techniques in order to obtain information. The correct words in a search engine will see an almost instant result. Therefore, we do not need to rely on the collective wisdom of the previous generation. We are, if willing, able to educate ourselves on any subject. We have the capacity (notwithstanding the motivation) to be our own guide; to provide inspiration for our own journey.  This notion empowers us to move to bigger and better things, if so desired.

So my aim is to see myself big. When I think of myself as I would like to be I see a compassionate and caring mother. I see a loving partner to a spunky man. I see a stylish, sophisticated, elegant woman. I see a confident, competent and comfortable lady. I see a lady who is successful in a project management position in a large corporate. Managing a team of people to deliver  multiple concurrent projects. I see a well educated, fit, healthy woman. I see someone who takes pride in her appearance but is not showy about it. I see a woman who is respectful, honest, thoughtful, generous and loyal.

When I look to the future I see a woman who is constantly evolving. I see that she is never static; always challenging herself to be more. Not different. Never different. But more. More authentic in every action of her life. I see someone who makes conscious decisions about the path she takes. A woman who is constantly reassessing and carving a way forward. Someone who takes risks. I see a woman who follows her heart. She loves wholeheartedly; laughs out loud and can take things in her stride.