Our society is fucked up when it comes to sex. I believe it comes from the hush-hush of everything relating to the underwear region from the time we are born. There is a preconception that women that sleep around are sluts and men that do are studs. Who are all the studs sleeping with if not the sluts?
I have no problem with people sleeping around. I do have a problem if they are doing so deceitfully however. Cheating is the greatest form of lying and lying is my number one pet hate.
The reality of having sex with any number of people doesn't bother me (safety first peeps!). It is not the way I choose to live my life. I have never slept with anyone I have not been in love with. Yes, I know what you are thinking and you are right, my number is very (very) small. I am not ashamed of it though.
There is a part of me that envies people with the confidence to sleep with strangers. Though it does not appeal to me I can see how it is a means to an end. In our disconnected and dysfunctional society we have set ourselves up for shallow physical relationships without any depth or meaning. Internet dating sites are rife with people hooking up for sex. Like I said, there is nothing wrong with two consenting adults fucking for pleasure. It's just not how I roll. I also worry that it is not great for emotional health. I believe humans are designed to form connections with people; relationships based on trust and mutual respect. I do not believe in monogamy for life but I do believe in monogamy for the duration of a relationship. I also believe that relationships develop healthy consideration for others.
I worry that when I get to the point where I am looking to date I will be so far from the norm as to be about as appealing as roadkill.
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